What is Sex Addiction?

Welcome to Health Professional Radio, I’m glad that you could join us today. Our guest in studio is Dr. Stephanie Carnes, she’s the President of the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals. It’s a company that provides training and materials to addiction professionals. She’s here to discuss several studies that reveal sex addiction and the need for an official diagnosis for sexual disorder. Basically, she’s here to answer maybe the question, ‘Is sex addiction is real disorder’? Welcome to Health Professional Radio Dr. Carnes. Thank you for having me, Neal. Thank you. You’re the author as well of the several books, ‘Mending a Shattered Heart: A Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts’, ‘Facing Addiction: Starting A Recovery from Alcohol and Drugs’ and ‘Facing Heartbreaks: Steps to Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts’. Is sexual disorder has that been your interest ever since you became a doctor or Ph.D.? It wasn’t initially, I’ve started working in Chemical Dependency in the addiction field, then over a time, I’ve got more involved in working with sex addiction.

My father is actually a pioneer in the field, Dr. Patrick Carnes, a lot of people are familiar with his work. He and I started working together in about the last 15 years I’ve been specializing in the area of sex addiction. Sex addiction, you’re saying that there’s a need for to be classified as a sexual disorder is that not the case now? Yes, it’s not actually. The Diagnostic Statistical Manual of mental disorder which is the diagnostic bible for psychiatrists. It used to contain a category called ‘Non-paraphilic Sexual Addiction’ and it was removed about 20 or 30 years ago. Since then there’s been a lot of controversy about, ‘What we’re going to call it?’ And a lot of questioning and confusion and certainly in the media about whether sex addiction is real. We’re actually at the point now where most of the professional health organizations agreed that this is a very real thing and there’s a lot of research on it.

However there still a lot of controversy about what we’re going to call it, some people will prefer to use the term sexual compulsivity, some people use the term addiction some people look at it as impulse control disorder or hypersexual behavior. But in general, most of practitioners and researchers do agree that this is an actual problem at this point in time it is not yet in the DSM, which means that people can get an insurance reimbursement, others wealth research finding for it.

It really keeps the problem stigmatized and not a lot of resources for people struggling with the disorder. Basically, there’s has been a 25-30 year, I guess halt in research, and opinions, and papers being written and what not. And treatment therapist being developed simply because it was taken out of the diagnostic manual. I wouldn’t say that Neal. I actually … to that because there has been a lot that’s been published and actually a lot of research but it’s been very controversial. There are have been concerns that people have had concerns that it would over classify as sex offenders, even though the data and a lot of the research show that when you use the criteria doesn’t over classify offenders or that you did apologize normal sexual behavior than healthy. But we’re really starting to narrow down a set of criteria. If you look across all the different research, the reality of the constellation of behaviors that most theorists agree upon and so a lot of those concerns are being not really legitimate concerns.

We are waiting for the DSM committees to actually review and look at the side as a legitimate diagnosis and hopefully, they’ll be doing that. They have just recently made the DSM a working document so people can submit proposals. The ICD (International Classification of Disease), the World Health Organization has a manual called the ICD, there coming out with their 11th version and they actually have included sexual compulsivity and sexual addiction in their classification system which most physicians used. The DSM a sort of the last to come to the party so to speak, but we’re really trying to advocate that a diagnosis be put in there so that people can get insurance reimbursement and research funding can be open up and not hat a thing.

Are there criteria that exist that are included in the DSM for sexual deviations, things that are you might treat an offender for whose trying to be rehabilitated from an institution? Is that something that has caused some of the confusion, I heard you mentioned something happened to do with lost versus addiction as opposed to (crosstalk) Right, exactly and so yes there is a diagnosis that is in a DSM, for example, paraphilia’s which are it can range from everything from sexual sadism, and masochism, to exhibitionism, and voyeurism, to paraphilia. And obviously, to be a diagnosis these things have to occur for a certain amount of time and have the cause distress to the person or unwilling victim that have a thing.

But there is certainly diagnosis and often times, offenders might have a paraphilia diagnosis or an anti-social personality profile. There is certainly are many diagnostic categories that might be appropriate. Having a sexual addiction has nothing to do with the type of sex, it has to do with whether or not causes problems for you and those around you. Is it similar to drug and alcohol addiction? Yes, it is actually.

When you look at it, the type of thing we look for is like people continuing despite consequences, look for a pattern of compulsive behavior over time, excessive amounts of time, doing the behavior or recovering from the behavior, efforts to stop the behavior, consequences because of the behavior, so it really not so much about what the behavior is that they’re doing. Just like whether an alcoholic drink, gin or beer does not really matter, but it’s the constellation of the consequences and criteria that we’re looking at.

Most sex addicts are, most common things are pornography obviously, a prostitution, anonymous sexual encounters, and hook up those will definitely be the most common types of preventing a shift. Do you consider an addiction to pornography to be a full-blown sex addiction or can a sex addiction include pornography or they separate? Yes, sometimes they are not separate. Sometimes you have pornography addicts that are also engaged in other types of behavior, so they’re not mutually exclusive. But there are people that are researching now how porn addiction might be different from sex addiction and how treatment approaches should be different. There’s been a lot of neuroscience research that has really shown how pornography is similar in the brain in terms of the neuroscience and how it’s similar to drug and alcohol addiction, with fMRI research and things like that. There is a lot of research that’s going into pornography addiction itself. There is an overlap obviously in treatment technique between in the two groups.

But there are certain things that are unique, depending on and how the sex addiction is presenting for that individual. We’ve touched on a few things that could contribute to the lack of being included in the DSM, but as an author of several books and informational website and what not. What do you think is the reason that is was taken out of the DSM which cause the controversy? Have that gap not existed, do you think that much larger lips, and bound, and strides would’ve been made into the research and well it’s not yet a disorder but probably would have been if not for this information gap? Yes, I think that there it has held back the research in this area.

The different reasons that I’ve heard that it was taken out instead of would there was concern a diagnosis would be used to get sex offenders off the hook in court cases although pedophilia diagnosis doesn’t usually get people the hook, or drug addiction diagnosis that can get people off the hook but there is concern around that. There was also someone argued that it was theoretical that it was an addiction. Which there still a lot of argument about, the theory underlying this disorder like is it a compulsion? Is it an addiction? Is it an impulse control disorder? And so there’s a lot of back and forth on the differences from the theoretical perspective there. Do you find that there is more resistance experience from the medical community, the medical financial community as an insurance company, as an HMO somethings to that nature or do you find that many patients or potential patients are reluctant to buy into it being an addiction or disorder? Maybe they were in the search for what was wrong or what the problem was, they were hoping for something else.

Yes, I have actually in terms of physicians, I found physicians to be pretty open to the idea of sex addiction and sexual compulsivity overall. As a matter of fact, the American Society of Addiction Medicine, in their most recent addition to their definition which took them 4 years to develop and had 80 neuroscientists involve in defining addiction. They actually included what we call behavioral addiction, which is like food, sex, gambling that type of thing, that those things because they know that the neuroscience is very similar to what we see in chemical dependency, there’s a very similar process going on with the reward system in the brain. Physicians have been pretty open about it, there are people in the sex therapy community, in that all of course there’s are some that are very open to the concept of sex addiction. But there are people that in that community as one that has always been very concerned about looking at sexual in a positive way, promoting the ideas of sexual health and LGBT cue advocacy and we want people to be able to explore their sexuality all in a positive way.

Human Sexuality Issues Revisited

Knowing is one thing but putting the knowledge into practice that’s a whole different story. I learned that if there is an area of my life where I am strongly disconnected from my spirituality, sexuality would be it. And it seems the entities used you to guide me in the right direction. I know that they do not interact with this dimension much but sometimes I feel that they do push things to haappen in a certain way.

What they did not want to explain to me, you taught me with your comments and messages, which I am really grateful for. This video was the moment when I realized it is time to stop being in conflict with myself and embrace my human existence. It was a turning point for this channel and a very important reminded that these messages are supposed to serve you and not be a frustration outlet for me. All your comments and messages taught me a lot about what it is that we, as humans, are supposed to experience here sexually. I was humbled and embarrassed how smart and mature you were and how much wisdom you had to offer to me and everyone reading the comments. Some of you are really intelligent and that video was definitely for me, not for you to learn from. I want to thank especially women, since only 1/5 of you here are female. Many of my opinions did not take into account women’s perspective and your input was very valuable to me.

Despite me having more than two decades of active sexual life it turns out I know very little about humans and their sexuality. It seems it is one of the most complex human issues to be defined in one simple video. I don’t think there is many people out there who have enough insight, perspective and knowledge about male and female sexuality to define what it really is about. All I can offer to you is my narrow perspective based on my experiences and the inter-dimensional lessons I received from the entities.

And now also your insight into this matter. This video is going to be a description of the contrast between what I would want for humans, what the reality is and what the entities told me about human sexuality. Ever since I uploaded that video I realized and I was actually reminded that having sex is a privilege that should be appreciated and celebrated rather than complained about. My attitude towards it was very spoiled and childish. There were comments that said that while I am complaining about not having access to unlimited sex there are people who don’t even have friends. It was very disrespectful of me to be so negative about this issue. As I said before, we are all learning together. So this video will be partially material from the previous video and partially a list of reasons why I was wrong about human sexuality and I hope that it still helps you to understand your own sexuality and why we have these sexual norms in our society.

I will start from talking about what makes human sexuality so fascinating to me: Sex is probably my favorite thing about humans. Human body is beautiful. I think it is a sophisticated, pleasure generating device and I admire its complexity. For me the female body is one of the most beautiful things there is in life. I am aware that my DNA was coded to perceive it like that but I do enjoy this aspect of being a human. Sex and music are to me psychedelic tools available for everyone in everyday life. They change my mood, they make me happy and they relax me. Sex is a physical experience that affects my mental state, it is like medicine to me. It cures my anxiety and my depression and it acts as a muscle relaxant. I think orgasm is the only thing in a normal state of mind that allows humans to have a psychedelic connection. It is the highest vibrational frequency we can achieve and the fact that it opens a portal to another dimension and no one has really paid attention to it is mind-boggling to me.

There is still so much we don’t understand about ourselves. Sex is the only state that allows the consciousness of two bodies to become one. It is a transcendental experience that if you were to experience as an alien you would probably get addicted to. Sex is an incredible amplifier of love and I think that sex for some of us is also the ultimate expression of love. Sex generates the strongest emotions possible. In connection with love it is the most powerful method of raising vibrational frequency. The entities showed me some green energy fixing our body cells during an orgasm and I believe that there are unknown healing properties of sex that we ignore. I really like the power of my sexual imagination. To me it is much better than porn and I often wonder if others can enjoy the creative abilities of their minds in the same way. I love how you access somebody’s hidden alter-ego through sex.

I love how intimate it becomes and that in this moment you are the only one who gets access to it. I think of it as a reward for the effort you put into the relationship and the interaction that lead to it. You get access to the knowledge about what they look naked, what they smell like, how passionate they are and so many other things. This secret sexual persona of every human is something that really fascinates me. I really like how sex makes everyone equal. When it comes to sexuality there is no hierarchy and you need to play by biological rules.

No matter who you are you will behave the same in bed as the rest of humans. I hope I get to live to a moment in our life when technology allows us to access somebody’s mind. I would love to experience female sexuality to see if it really is that different from ours. Everything that the entities tell me is very wise and valuable but sex is the only reason for my arguments with them. Machine elves are powerful, inter-dimensional, divine beings with supernatural knowledge yet me, a tiny human, dares to disagree with their plans for the purpose of my existence here.

The sexuality of my human form in this dimension is really a challenge to me and it is probably the biggest struggle that I have. It is mainly because of the conflict between me having the awareness of the metaphysical nature of sex and the social restrictions limiting my ability to freely explore human sexuality in the way I want to. The entities explained it to me in the following way: “Your tools in form of your talents that you received to do your job here make you such an interesting person that we had to add some obstacles and problems to your life that push people away from you so that you can concentrate on your path rather than sexual interaction with people.

You need to do your job. The reason why this happens is that you’re on an important journey and women cause too big of an emotional ride introducing too much chaos into your life. Your path doesn’t allow that. You need to walk your path with no major disturbances.” Like with everything else they did provide me with an explanation to how my past and current sexual experiences affected who I am at the same time telling me that they are partially in control of my sex life.

I am a very sexual person and it’s really difficult being in monogamous relationships with those sexual restrictions and limitations they impose on my life. I understand the reasons they have are important and the bigger picture matters more than my feelings but it doesn’t change the fact that it’s physically painful not to be able to commit myself fully to exploring humans through unrestricted access to sex. I trust their wisdom and I promised myself never to question their decisions regarding my sexual experiences here. And here is a list of human sexuality issues I complained about and the part of the video that changed everything: In that video I complained: “Sex is an unproductive, unnecessary burden in my life. It distracts me, takes the joy out of a normal life and makes me dependent on another person. All of these are unnecessary for me. I often wonder what it’s like to exist in this reality without constant sexual pressure. What it’s like to talk to a girl like a human being without subconsciously evaluating her looks and my chances with her. The internal sexual pressure is unhealthy and unbearable. It ruins my self-esteem, causes depression and is a driver behind many ridiculous situations in my life.

I live in the world of higher consciousness yet I am enslaved by this bodily function that keeps the rest of my life needs hostage.” What I did not take into account is the explanation by the entities that sex is an inseparable element of romantic love. It is a reward not only for being in higher vibrational frequency but also for raising another human being’s vibration, which in machine elve’s opinion this the highest form of spiritual development. Being able to make others feel good is a sign of advanced emotional mastery.

I don’t know how I could have forgotten that. I also complained that “if you were to evaluate the pros and cons of being a human, sexual compulsions seem to be the most difficult and unnecessary element of life. It’s annoying to me that it is a primitive element of human nature completely not in line with our lives today. We are all striving for conscious, intelligent and spiritual existence and sexuality keeps us locked in our primal mode.” And then a few minutes later in that video I contradictorily claim that sexuality is the most psychedelic human experience next to music. When done lovingly sex is obviously one of the most spiritual acts one can engage in without the use of any psychedelics. It is one of the most awe-generating sensations available to us here. It is an extension to our spiritual life rather than an obstacle to it. I also said that I have an issue with the contrast between our sexes, that I don’t like how different we are that I see men and women as mainly incompatible.

And then I said that I know that it is possible for two people to find each other and live together happily. It seems I resolved that issue for myself in the same sentence. I should have remembered that the entities told me that sex is often used as a civilizing tool for our behavior. They said that we need to learn how to interact so that we can get to the love stage and then effectively to the sex stage. Men and women are different but our job is to figure it out how to become compatible. Your purpose here is to learn the rules of the opposite sex to make each other happy. Now we get to the part that generated the most controversy.

I said “I don’t like the fact that humans don’t do much to help each other sexually. It costs nothing and it literally saves lives. A deep physical bond even for a moment can be a complete life changer for men and women yet we only do it with a few chosen people throughout our lives. It costs nothing and it is treated as if it was an act requiring an incredible amount of sacrifice. I don’t get it.” This was the part where my lack of understanding of female sexuality became obvious. And after talking to you and reading some of your really intelligent comments I realized that sex for women has a completely different meaning and comes with a completely different set of issues than for men. One of the best examples would the element of fear that women need to take into account in a relationship with a man.

It is something that I never have to think about. Although I was aware of that I foolishly ignored it and I wasn’t open-mind enough about our differences. Even despite the fact that I was visited by the inter-dimensional goddess of sex who explained to me those differences. I also said that “I don’t like how a sexual relationship changes between people over time and how it is usually the first casualty of a troubled long-term relationship. Instead of developing this element of life it is usually the one most likely to disappear from a relationship. It becomes mechanical and forced.” And again, despite all of my machine elf teachings being about the ability to love and maintain loving states I did not take it into account. Sex is an indicator of how well you are doing in a relationship with another person and if it goes away it means there are some issues that need to be worked on. Sex is a love compass. I had a problem with what I called “the socially and legally imposed sexual slavery to your husband, wife or your partner.” I claimed to understand that it is biologically conditioned to preserve the unity of family and that we don’t really use sex for reproductive purposes anymore.

I said that we could let it go and make each other happy. I had a problem with another human being claiming ownership over the most pleasurable part of our body. I have mentioned many times that the entities told me that this here is a love training ground and I should have been more appreciative of the extraordinary ability for humans to form life-long bond based on mutual love and respect. What other way to go through love training than by finding a partner who will test our love capabilities in isolated, monogamous environment.

Here is what I said about being a man: “I don’t agree with the ridiculous aspect of male attractiveness being strongly related to money and prosperity. I understand that this has biological, logical and social foundations nevertheless it is something that makes a man’s life very difficult. For a woman to be attractive all she needs to do is to take good care of herself but a man can only be truly attractive if he cultivates an interesting personality and has impressive achievements in life. From a biological perspective I feel it’s an unfair imbalance.” This was not only inaccurate based on my own life experiences but also it is the opposite of the information I received from the psychedelic realm.

Attraction is relative and it is based on the ability of two people to open and synchronize their communication channels. The factors involved in this will depend on the ability of their higher selves to communicate using the same language. I deleted some other of my statements that made very little sense but here is the rest of human sexual issues I still would want to address from that old video: I don’t like how humans distort sex. How it is sold, manipulated, exchanged, ridiculed and used as a tool. I don’t understand something so spiritual and beautiful can be used for personal gain. There should be sexual celebration of bodies as pleasure tools and we don’t do that.

Instead we demonize the human body, we cover it up, we remove any nudity from media and we make sure that no one sees any skin anywhere. The issue of constant competition and the never-ending beauty contest. Since we’re born unequal and attraction seems to play a major part in it, we are constantly preoccupied with our appearance and how we are being perceived. Physical attractiveness is extremely overrated in our society at the expense of personality and mental capacity. Looks is the unspoken currency of our social system. I think we reach sexual maturity too late in life. Ironically we get to still being children but our brains don’t catch up with it until we’re in our mid to late twenties.

Sometimes even later than that. By the time we are emotionally aware of who we are as sexual beings it is usually already too late to choose our life that would be in line with our sexual needs and preferences. My sexuality started early around seven or eight and I was really frustrated for about a decade not understanding why there’s no structure in human life for my sexual needs at that age. I struggled with the complete embargo on discussing sexuality with grown-ups. I was dying to meet a girl or a woman who would be willing to help me out with my sexual compulsions. It was only when I got older that I understood the social implications of this but still, it was a nightmarish decade. And finally my advice for everyone: enjoy safe sex, make each other happy and get good at it so that you can create a life that is fulfilling sexually and emotionally. Explore your bodies and learn about its reactions. Have as much sex as possible. Emotional and mental sexual maturity is very liberating and will make you a happier and more fulfilled person with a more conscious existence.

Enjoy your body, love it and be proud of it. It is an amazing pleasure generating device. Thank you for you help in embracing my human form. I hope I will never have to rewrite any videos but should it ever happen I hope you will guide me again. Here is a quick request for your financial support since you guys are now my only source of income. There are many methods and all links are in the video description.

Human Sexuality is Complicated

For many it is nice to imagine humans are simple, and you can know the gender of the person, and in doing so he learned various things About it clearly and deeply And when you don’t have this pretty little box People who belong to it will be in a state of confusion Sometimes even angry And if you are, you can not enjoy this Cute little crates, and you think you should You will end up hating yourself This is often worse I think it is better and it is perhaps the only solution to be resolved This problem is that people understand that it does not exist For those shiny boxes Or, if those boxes exist, there is Infinite number of them Enough to accommodate all the existing human beings Those who have been before and who will never be Therefore, let us understand together We will start with a simple form: What happens down there between your thighs This is your gender Your biological gender It tends to be binary, although there are all types Various conditions that lead to people between two sexes (intersex) And as far as the topic is raised and complicated Until it remained more complicated For this, I will go from here Because most of us understand what sex is Now we go up, to the brain It is something that determines sexual identity That define you If you feel like a man or a woman Or none of the above Because the amazing thing is, Whatever we try to know things However, there is no way to define all points Or infinite continuity This is what we are dealing with here So, let’s really imagine how this works I designed a graph for you On the x-axis we have gender: male to female And on the Y axis we have the intensity That this species is hidden I will be freaking here because I classify myself as a man Although I recognize that there is a part in From the female side Y However, let’s put a biological female hypothesis On the graph it classifies itself as a man Now, this may seem really uncomfortable Especially when there is a group of people in this world Those who become calling him a female, just because It has happened that he was created with that body Who is not comfortable with him to the extreme That is why sex does not define a personal pronoun That we should use Gender identity determines that Now, let’s turn to the heart The rhetorical heart, of course This is what you are attracted to Men, women, all races Madaba, this is a spectrum, and this spectrum It includes distress because there are people, who They never feel sexual attraction Therefore, asexuality is a sexual orientation A new idea I was happy to discover Yesterday on Tumblr Is the idea of ​​romantic (emotional) orientation And with these people you want Build an intimate relationship.

However, this details the idea that sex is It is the goal and the final point and it is everything For all intimate relationships Now that we have finished how we feel Let’s see what happens when Others get cozy This is sexual behavior, which is really very different About sexual orientation. This will look a little strange But it is not Let us realize, for example, a cruel heterosexual Sexual orientation has a difference But because of his religion, his sexual behavior (abstinence) Here, we are not talking about preference We are talking about orientation Now, from the base of your sexual role Which is created by society It is the clear who play the role of the male And the role of the female. However, like all the wrong diodes This is a spectrum, too Now, since we almost covered this topic It is really important to note each one of These classifications are as a separate case For this, the biological female may be a man, who exercises Sex with women, despite the fact that he is attracted To both nationalities, he may feel More comfortable with the sexual role as a female.

This may not be the most common combination Among these factors, but it really is not strange There is also an important point, most people pass through this spectrum Sometimes from year to year And sometimes from hour to hour However, what really matters is that we trust ourselves And we understand ourselves And we love and respect ourselves and grant That same understanding and respect to people Around us. Because, when this world becomes one Of these continuities, and those wrong dichotomies are broken These two bright boxes break down to seven billion Glossy box, this will be very damning. John, see you Tuesday.

For many it is nice to imagine Humans are simple, and you can know The gender of the person, and in doing so he learned various things About it clearly and deeply And when you don’t have this pretty little box People who belong to it will be in a state of confusion Sometimes even angry And if you are, you can not enjoy this Cute little crates, and you think you should You will end up hating yourself This is often worse I think it is better and it is perhaps the only solution to be resolved This problem is that people understand that it does not exist For those shiny boxes Or, if those boxes exist, there is Infinite number of them Enough to accommodate all the existing human beings Those who have been before and who will never be Therefore, let us understand together We will start with a simple form: What happens down there between your thighs This is your gender Your biological gender It tends to be binary, although there are all types Various conditions that lead to people between two sexes (intersex) And as far as the topic is raised and complicated Until it remained more complicated For this, I will go from here Because most of us understand what sex is Now we go up, to the brain It is something that determines sexual identity That define you If you feel like a man or a woman Or none of the above Because the amazing thing is, Whatever we try to know things However, there is no way to define all points Or infinite continuity This is what we are dealing with here So, let’s really imagine how this works I designed a graph for you On the x-axis we have gender: male to female And on the Y axis we have the intensity That this species is hidden I will be freaking here because I classify myself as a man Although I recognize that there is a part in From the female side Y However, let’s put a biological female hypothesis On the graph it classifies itself as a man Now, this may seem really uncomfortable Especially when there is a group of people in this world Those who become calling him a female, just because It has happened that he was created with that body Who is not comfortable with him to the extreme That is why sex does not define a personal pronoun That we should use Gender identity determines that Now, let’s turn to the heart The rhetorical heart, of course This is what you are attracted to Men, women, all races Madaba, this is a spectrum, and this spectrum It includes distress because there are people, who They never feel sexual attraction Therefore, asexuality is a sexual orientation A new idea I was happy to discover Yesterday on Tumblr Is the idea of ​​romantic (emotional) orientation And with these people you want Build an intimate relationship.

However, this details the idea that sex is It is the goal and the final point and it is everything For all intimate relationships Now that we have finished how we feel Let’s see what happens when Others get cozy This is sexual behavior, which is really very different About sexual orientation. This will look a little strange But it is not Let us realize, for example, a cruel heterosexual Sexual orientation has a difference But because of his religion, his sexual behavior (abstinence) Here, we are not talking about preference We are talking about orientation Now, from the base of your sexual role Which is created by society It is the clear who play the role of the male And the role of the female. However, like all the wrong diodes This is a spectrum, too Now, since we almost covered this topic It is really important to note each one of These classifications are as a separate case For this, the biological female may be a man, who exercises Sex with women, despite the fact that he is attracted To both nationalities, he may feel More comfortable with the sexual role as a female.

This may not be the most common combination Among these factors, but it really is not strange There is also an important point, most people pass through this spectrum Sometimes from year to year And sometimes from hour to hour However, what really matters is that we trust ourselves And we understand ourselves And we love and respect ourselves and grant That same understanding and respect to people Around us. Because, when this world becomes one Of these continuities, and those wrong dichotomies are broken These two bright boxes break down to seven billion Glossy box, this will be very damning.

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